It’s Sunday afternoon and, at long last, I’m finally getting some down time. Having spent the majority of the weekend prepping our old house for the estate agent’s photo shoot, it’s felt like an endlessly long week of hard work.
In recent years, I’ve learnt that I don’t do well mentally if I don’t get enough rest. This was evident yesterday, in my being more than a little short tempered with C. Frustrated and tired, I’d become resentful at finishing work on my day job, only then to have to spend my precious weekends working another kind of job.
I felt justified in my irritation, until I began to really think about why we had sacrificed our free time these past couple of months. It reminds me of this quote I like from Jim Rohn; Tony Robbins’ teacher:
“Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job you’ll make a living, if you work hard on yourself you can make a fortune.” Jim Rohn
Taking a different perspective, I can see that working on our old house is an extension of working on myself. Not only is it a tangible investment, hopefully generating funds we can reinvest in our new home, but it’s also been an emotional investment. It’s been C’s house for over twenty years, so holds a million memories for him, not to mention it becoming our first real home together.
Knowing that how I feel is within my control, this morning I took action to motivate myself to feel positively about spending one last day working on the old house. I primed myself during my shower, Tony Robbins-style, reciting an uplifting incantation. I listened to mood-boosting music. I made a list of tasks to complete, ensuring I felt organised and alleviating anxiety. By making a conscious decision to have a good day, I then acted in a way to make it happen.
I can confidently say that C and I worked hard on this project. Together, we’ve invested our time, effort, love and care, to create somewhere special that will house new memories and stories for someone new. Hours spent painting, cleaning and sanding magically translate into a beautiful home, which C and I can feel proud to have created.
Now, sitting cross-legged on our lovely new sofa, I’m delighting in wearing my comfiest clothes and munching hot, buttery toast. As I sip my tea, I can feel my body begin to relax. I know I’ve earned this, which makes it feel all the better. So whilst I have a moment to myself, I want to share with you my other highlights from this week.
This Week I’m Grateful for:
- Having beautiful memories of happy times in our old house that I will treasure forever. Amongst many, those that push themselves to the forefront of my mind include my first meeting with C’s old cat, K. Bringing with me a family-sized bucket o KFC as we welcome gift, K sat at the kitchen table with us and made his decision then and there that I was a keeper. Scorching hot summers spent wearing shorts in the garden. C’s amazing fireworks display in the back garden, culminating in applause from the neighbours at the end of the street. Sharing impromptu barbecues with our elderly neighbour K, whose kindness (often in the form of fresh fruit from the garden, or home-made fairy buns) kept us living in this too-small house for way too long!
- Finally finishing our renovation work on the old house and being ready to sell. It’s a little nerve-wrecking, but incredibly exciting, too.
- A well-deserved break from DIY, At least for a while, C and I can sit back and relax, knowing we don’t have to spend our weekends working.
- Feeling like a loved Aunty Heather. A message from C’s Mum, informing me that my niece S had such a lovely stay with us, she wants to move in next door! It made me feel warm inside to think that I’m making such a positive impact.
- Making Thursday night our Movie Night, and rediscovering the joy of a bowl of popcorn and snuggles on the sofa. Bliss!
- Creating a clear plan for my book, and feeling proud that I’ve already got words for every chapter. It’s amazing to think that in just over a week, I’ve taken more action on making my dreams real than I have in years. There’s an absolute ton of practical experiments I want to conduct, and a mass of desk-based research to devour, but it’s the most exciting work I think I’ve ever done.
- Starting my newest challenge for the next month. I’ll be writing about my Role Models Challenge later as the first week draws to a close. For now, I’ll simply say how inspiring it is to surrounded myself with successful people from all walks of life, and learn from their perspectives.
- Getting confirmation that I’ll be travelling to South Korea in the Autumn for work.
- Being surprised by the double-headed daffodils from Asda, opening in our hallway. They’re unlike any other daffodil I’ve ever seen!
- Feeling great for having walked to work, doing my Hour of Power, every weekday. This morning ritual makes a huge difference to the quality of the rest of my day.
- Embracing that I’m good at my day job. I’m far more confident and competent in all kinds of situations, including working with new people and speaking out about my successes to more senior people.
- Looking forward to the first May Bank Holiday. I’ll be spending a day working as a rhino keeper at the zoo, and will visit my sisters to catch up. Our first five-day break this year, C and I are feeling more than ready for it!
- Feeling good about getting to know who I really am. I’m confident that my true passion is writing. My life’s purpose is in learning how to become happier, healthier and emotionally wealthier, and then sharing that knowledge with others. It’s exciting to be able to combine both loves in writing my book.
- C’s trail camera capturing footage of incredible British wildlife in our new garden. Wild foxes and badgers are quite literally living alongside us!
- Enjoying a Friday evening getting a tipsy in the pub with C from three G&Ts. Then eating American-style burgers in a red leather booth.
- Falling asleep on the sofa mid-film. One of the most relaxing experiences in the world, I adore napping on the couch or in the car. It’s where I catch my best zzzs.
- Filling my house with flowers. Fluorescent pink carnations and beautiful rainbow tulips I’ll be able to bring home tomorrow, post-estate agent photos.
Here’s to another happy week – and a long weekend!